blended family

Encouragement for Blended Families and Stepparents

If you had told me 10 years ago that I would be a divorced mom of two to later remarry into a family of 4 I would have told you that you were crazy! I was content with my life in Florida. I had just had baby #1 and sure we had our marital issues like anyone else, but never would I have imagined what was in store for my future.

It’s easy to look around at others and see their hurt, but not truly understand what they are going through. Hurt can comes in form of death, divorce, a traumatic event, and more, but until it changes YOUR life sometimes we just don’t get it.

So, let’s hop to 2008. That was a MUCH better year for me. After single parenting, I met and married Steve. He had two children of his own from a previous marriage and had gone through the same life’s pains as me. For a time, I remember crying out to God asking if anyone would ever want a woman with two small girls and a ton of baggage. Of course, God showed me that He did have a plan for me and it came much quicker than I expected.

Steve and I married in June 2008 after a short engagement. After all, we had both been married before and there was no point in prolonging what we both new we wanted. Our dating life consisted of dinners with the six of us around the dining table at his house, giving the kids baths, watching TV, going to the park and on occasion we would go out just the two of us. If dating with four kids didn’t work then, we knew that it wouldn’t work in married life.

I’m not going to get into all of the details and events that happened next just yet. I’ve got to save some of that for later ­čÖé However, being a stepmom has been by far one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever had and one of the biggest emotional roller coasters in my life. I know what it’s like to feel like you don’t have a place in your own home. I know what it’s like to feel like a third party. I know what it’s like to feel like you don’t have a voice.

I can also tell you that being a stepparent and raising someone else’s children can be very rewarding. It takes time and a lot of patience, but when you push through all of the trials and start to see changes happening it’s exciting! There are many mountains to climb and many valleys to walk through, but with my own story I have seen over and over how God has been with me each step of the way. You can’t force someone to love you. You can’t make it happen on your own. You have to wait and allow God to work on everyone’s hearts.

I recently published my first blended family devotional and I would love to share it with you! Click this LINK and check it out! It will walk you through my own personal story and struggles and teach you some basic principles along the way. I also have a Facebook page for blended families that I’ve started┬áso Steve and I can┬ámeet new families, give support, and encourage others. Click HERE to connect with us!

Stay tuned for more of my story.

Broken To Blended

Broken To Blended – Now Available

I am so thrilled to announce that my first book is now published and available! Broken To Blended: Encouragement For Blended Families is a devotional/journal for those parenting children other than their own. It is difficult enough dealing with issues in marriage and family, but when you throw in the complexities of blended family life, issues can escalate.

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There are so many emotions involved. There are so many PEOPLE involved in your life that sometimes you feel like you don’t have a place in your own home. This book takes you through my own life. The REAL and RAW parts and I am able to share how I came from brokenness to my own blended family. There is no sugar coating the issues in family life.

I want people to understand that there are so many people who can relate to their struggles and find encouragement from scripture and prayer. So, with that said… please share this with your family, friends, or anyone you know who may be feeling a little lost or hopeless in their own situation. I promise you they will receive a blessing after going through this 30 day devotional.

The book is now available on Kindle or Createspace. Click links to view. Also, it will be available on Amazon.com by the end of the week!

Blended Family Encouragement

It is not uncommon today for people to have a blended family. It may be due to death or divorce, but no matter what we all need encouragement to help us and guide us. Steve and I have been married almost 7 years and merged from 2 to 4 kids. Then a few years later, we added one more to the gang! So here we are a BIG family of 7 and have daily struggles with our “blending”.

Sometimes, it could be related to the different ways we parent and discipline… other days it can simply be being oversensitive to the circumstances. But, I can tell you that no matter what I can ALWAYS use some encouragement in this area. There are things I wish I could go back and do differently when we first got married. I was young. I didn’t want to go through divorce. I didn’t want to have a blended family. I didn’t want to have to deal with ex-spouses for my entire life! haha

But, thankfully God’s Word has given and continues to give me truth in how to handle my life and kids. Believe me, I’ve failed PLENTY of times, but I feel like what I want to share in this new Blended Family Devotional will help so many people. As I wrote this over a year ago, I cried through every page I typed. I poured out my own story which was super painful. It left me feeling like I had a big open wound that I was exposing to the world.

Little did I know what God had in mind. He truly inspired each page of this 30 day devotional. If I wasn’t inspired, I didn’t write. Now, I am watching and waiting to see what God has in store next. He has opened a BIG HUGE DOOR to publish this devotional and I am trusting Him along the way.

I’ve started the fundraising to pay for this to become a reality. I’d love for you to check out my page and if you feel led… donate to the ministry.

https://www.youcaring.com/other/blended-family-ministry/240888

Thank you so much for all your support!