When I was 26 years old, my life dramatically changed. I went through THE HARDEST time of my life with a difficult divorce. I had two small children who depended on me and I had no clue how to start over. After dealing with the emotions and feelings of failure from my divorce, I poured my energy into my kids. Life went on and then later I met Steve. Steve had also been through the same situation as I had and he also had two children.
We later married into a family of six.
Sometimes people have a false sense of reality when it comes to remarriage and merging of families. No matter how wonderful your family may be, there are so many additional stressors aside from the marriage itself. There are ex-spouses or grandparents who continue to have a big part in your life. There are multiple opinions on how the children should be raised. There are many different parenting styles, communication styles, and structures that could lead to disagreements.
All of this to say, blended family parents need so much support and encouragement! I remember when Steve and I merged our families together. I was given a few books to read to help me through the step-parenting. Of course, I was new to step-parenting and I had such unrealistic expectations. I remember crying reading some of the books because they were so harsh. Then later I came to realize that all of the books I read were written by people who had never even experienced the same painful situations! That really shocked me! I totally understand people have a degree, but deep inside of me I felt like I needed to do something to help.
That’s when things clicked.
I didn’t just go through a divorce to carry this baggage around my entire life. The weight of the divorce alone could have sent me over the edge, but then add the complexity of blended family life and being a step-mom. I just KNEW that there had to be someone else out there who needed encouragement as badly as I did. Then, the Lord put the burden on my heart to write a devotional. Broken to Blended: Encouragement for blended families was born! God gave me the words and I just poured out my heart in hopes that others would be encouraged.
The devotional is real and raw.
I felt as though a scab was ripped off and God said, “it’s all going to be ok.” He wanted me to talk about the hurts and the pains despite what others may think. He wanted me to cry over the pages as I wrote and receive healing through it. I can tell you that even today when I read the pages, I don’t see it as me writing this. I see it as God writing it. Now, He has given me inspiration for the next book that is in the works entitled, “The Step-Moms Survival Guide.” In this book, we will talk about the ups and downs as the role of the step-parent and how we can make it through even with a little comic relief.
My husband, Steve, and I want to extend an invitation to you as well. We are starting our non-profit and are starting our own Blended Family Retreats. This is something we’ve been wanting for a long time now. We want to come and meet you where you are whether it be at a church or community group. We would love to share our story and walk you through different topics that have really helped us. For more info, please click HERE to contact us directly. God is SO good and we can’t wait to see what He has in store.
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